Pregnancy is a beautiful, yet challenging, phase. Like mothers, fathers too need to learn to accommodate and adjust. It is important to understand that the mother-to-be would be a different person now than what she was before pregnancy. With two souls growing and grooming in one body, things are sure to change. Also, it is a recognized fact that individuals react and respond differently when they are under stress than what they do when they are comfortable, safe and secure. Similarly, stress is quite natural during times of rapid change, and the time of pregnancy is one of such period.
Here are few suggestions for the would-be-father. These simple tips are sure to nurture the couple for a new beginning:
- Avoid showing concern towards your partner’s changing body shape. Giving remarks such as ‘I think you have put up too much weight’ will have negative effect on her and the unborn baby. In turn, express your appreciation for her beautiful pregnant body knowing fully well that she will return to her normal shape post-delivery.
2. In case your partner expresses concern about her stretch marks, increasing breast and belly size, reassure her that they will improve after the baby is born. Be supportive; don’t suggest that you have been worrying about the same.
3. Sexual appetite of women during such time fluctuates. During the first trimester women usually have no desire or very less desire to have sex. This is primarily due to a combination of physical and emotional factors. The urge for sex comes back during second trimester. During this time you can try different positions that do not place uncomfortable pressure on her womb.
4. Remember that everything may not unfold as you have planned. When she has to go for her regular check-ups, go along with her. Pre-plan your appointments and leave enough time so that she is not late due to unanticipated delays.
5. Do not plan any out-of-town trips especially when she is approaching her D Day.
6. Through little gestures and words let your partner know that being there for her is your foremost priority.
7. Establish good relationship with your spouse’s health care provider and ask him or her questions you have in your mind.